Thursday, 12 April 2018

#BLEEDRED #PROUDLY

#BLEEDRED #PROUDLY

Hello everyone out there.Hope you all are doing well in your lives.
Before reading this blog,let me clarify that this blog can be read by both women and men.
I remember,I was 10 years old when I had my periods for the first time,moreover I was too young to understand all about it.I didn't went school for five days.I was told not to tell anyone about this especially men,how weird know!!!
As if some secret will get revealed.In this 21st century also women are always discriminated due to menstruation.We need to carry a sanitary pad packet in a black polythene so that no one will know that are going through our periods.We are not even allowed to enter temples.I think this so called well cultured society have forgotten that goddesses in temples are also women.Even having pickles are also not allowed.
What's the shame all about!!
I believe we women need to talk about it more and more so that women who suffers those five days every month can get the necessary awareness regarding the issue.
We don't talk about menstruation but the society wants us to give good news to them right after one year of getting married.I mean isn't that disgusting!!
If we won't have periods how will the birth of a human being is possible on this mother earth.
I have seen men making faces when they hear about menstruation,I mean dude you are born because your mother had periods,seven days a month,twelve months in a year,and half of her lifetime.
Well people are there who always have the disgust on their face when they encounter a women in her periods.I mean isn't that they are actually having disgust regarding themselves.
I don't understand why our society behaves insane,periods are normal and they are just one biological phenomena.
There are many women who don't have any awareness regarding menstrual health,it's high time that we make them aware of this.
Periods are not our weakness,that's something we all women should be proud of,after all the almighty have given us the blessing to be a mother to someone.
Even women are there who always tries to make girls not to step out of their home during menstruation.I mean how insane people are.
There are women who don't have access to sanitary pads,some even don't have heard about the sanitary pads.I mean which century do we live in.What's the thing that we need to whisper and talk about periods.These disgusting norms are only for creating barriers before we women,and we need to fight against these evil practices in our society.
I have seen educated people having a lower grade mentality regarding periods.
Let me tell them that we women are proud,that we bleed red,after all we have the womb of the world.Then why to disgust about periods,it's just as normal as having fever.So,ladies out there just talk about it whenever needed,I am not asking women to shout aloud standing middle of the road regarding periods but at least they should talk about it without any hesitation when required. 
We make 100 trips to the washroom,check our clothes(especially when we wear white),don't wear light colours.I mean women please stop pleasing the society,and lead a life you want.Why to give someone else the string of your life!!

#BLEEDRED

#PROUDLY




Monday, 26 March 2018

TRIPLE TALAQ


TRIPLE TALAQ




We Indians want to progress in every field,we want to see our country developing at a rapid pace, we want to be the superpower, we want our country to be listed among the most developed nations. But is it possible to achieve all these milestones when the women of our country are suffering, are harassed mentally, physically and sexually, are subjected to violence, are not given their rights, are not given justice. We should first make sure that each and every citizen of India is getting their rights and justice.
These days one of the most trending and debated topics on every media channel, social media platforms is triple talaq.Triple Talaq, also known as talaq-e-biddat, instant divorce and talaq-e-mughallazah (irrevocable divorce), is a form of Islamic divorce which has been used by Muslims in India, especially adherents of Hanafi Sunni Islamic schools of jurisprudence. It allows any Muslim man to legally divorce his wife by stating the word talaq (the Arabic word for "divorce") three times  in succession in oral, written, or more recently, electronic form.
Triple talaq debate is over now.The Supreme Court has said that it is unconstitutional.
According to the Indian Census 2011 data, 13.5 % of Muslim women were married before the age of 15 years. 49% of women were married when they were between 14-19 years. Marriage at such an early age, in most cases, decreases the possibility of acquiring education or being financially sound.
Less education leads women to depend on their husbands for financial support. This is one of the important reasons why married men use triple talaq as a weapon to dominate their wives.
How can a man divorce his wife just because she got up late in the morning,that too not with the help of any legal procedure.This is not the end,a Muslim woman was given triple talaq by her husband because she refused to abort her child,because her husband suspected that their third child will also be a girl child( https://m.dailyhunt.in/news/india/english/yourstory-epaper-yourstory/92+pc+Muslim+women+in+india+want+to+get+rid+of+triple+talaq+like+their+counterparts+in+other+countries-newsid-65963435).Divorces are given just by chanting the word talaq three times on whatsapp, facebook or the phone.
This kind of practices are making Muslim women to live in fear for each and every moment of their life and because of these they are also facing issues like domestic violence,harassment both mentally and physically(https://economictimes.indiatimes.com/news/politics-and-nation/triple-talaq-should-be-covered-under-domestic-violence-act-Muslim-body/articleshow/61936944.cms)
I as a woman would appreciate our government and the honourable prime minister that they took this issue seriously and banned triple talaq and also made laws to protect the rights of Indian Muslim women(https://www.indiatoday.in/india/story/triple-talaq-bill-lok-sabha-supreme-court-bjp-congress-illiteracy-education-levels-marriage-act-1118069-2017-12-28).
I believe banning triple talaq is one of the historical and biggest steps taken by the government in the history of India for the development of women,particularly Muslim women of India.THis step will surely help women to have a strong stand in the society and not as an object by their husbands.(https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Muslim_Women_(Protection_of_Rights_on_Marriage)_Bill,_2017)
Muslim women of India really had a lot of patience and courage which helped them to achieve their rights and justice.They have seen a lot of dark and gloomy days,banning of a menace like triple talaq will surely given them rays of hope,courage and determination in their life.There were many people and organisations against the Muslim women who stood against triple talaq but at the end of the day Muslim women won with their power of determination.Actually winning the battle against triple talaq gave a strong message to those people who thinks women as objects that now Muslim women of India have woken up and they will fight and also win each and every evil against them(https://www.thenewsminute.com/article/triple-talaq-bill-passed-lok-sabha-here-s-why-some-people-are-opposing-it-73868).
 Women have fought a lot of battles against the patriarchal society and thoughts and also have won,but by winning the battle against triple talaq women have proved again that we can win any battle doesn't matter how difficult it is to achieve(http://www.thehindu.com/news/national/lok-sabha-passes-the-triple-talaq-bill/article22319663.ece).
Now it’s the time to wake up and be proactive for the Muslim women who were silent against violence against them by their husband due to the fear of triple talaq.Law is formed,triple talaq got banned but it's the high time to make sure that married Muslim men change their thinking about wives.
We need to ensure that each and every Muslim girl of India is getting a proper education which will help them to be mentally and financially strong.A proper and good education will surely give the Muslim women of India to contribute for the development of the country and also will also shape their future in a better way around.
I want every Muslim women to speak for their rights and justice .I think that the law formed by the government will surely bring new hopes in the lives of Muslim women and will also take our the fear of triple talaq from their minds and they will get their deserved rights and justice and will also get the respect they deserve.
Triple talaq has protrayed a wrong picture of Muslims.They are not like that.The practice of triple talaq was outlawed in every other Muslim country decades ago.Also,triple talaq was used by a very marginal number of people.

Saturday, 10 March 2018

HAPPY INTERNATIONAL WOMEN'S DAY!!!!!

HAPPY INTERNATIONAL WOMEN'S DAY!!!!!

Hello readers.Hope you all are well.
Well we all are aware that 8th march is celebrated as International Women's day,oops!! sorry,let me correct myself,it's HAPPY INTERNATIONAL WOMEN"S DAY!!!!!

But is it really happy and worth celebrating.

Our roads are not safe after 8 P.M,cases of domestic violence and dowry deaths are increasing day by day,girls are not allowed to complete their education,women are molested,raped and here we are talking about women's day that too happy.What an irony!!!!

The journey of we women from remaining confined in the four walls of the kitchen to conquering the skies was not a fairy tale,to be honest it was never a cakewalk for we women to set out of our homes to be something,to get our identity,to prove ourselves.
The struggle women went through since years elocutes the never ending saga of trailblazer women.It's true that the struggle from becoming something from nothing was cumbersome,at times we got fed up,it got extremely tiresome,we broke,we cried but we never stopped.We kept moving ahead and that is the the reason why we women are able to get the deserved position in the society.

 Well the slogans and rhetorics don't help,nor do organizations,neither do campaigns and strikes,laws don't inculcate humanity and the advertisements with catchy captions don't make we women to feel safe,but yeah a mindset can.A mindset which understands that feminism is all about equality,a mindset who respect women and supports them in their journey.

According to our so called well cultured,educated society a women is always known by her father's name before getting married,and is known by her husband's name after getting married,this is the norm we need to break.We need to live our life with only our identity.Are we women born only to be known by the names of our fathers an husbands,where are our names,our identity.We need to make sure that our identity will not get lost in the web of this patriarchal society.

And for that we need to wake up,act and never stop from achieving our goals.We need to become the game changer.It's enough now for we women to always live under the dominance of male chauvinism and the patriarchal society which have always restricted women in each and everything and always have set boundaries for we women which have let our wings to learn,how to fly with confidence in the sky.

Every second,minute,hour,day is ours to conquer the world.
A mother,a daughter,a sister,a wife,a friend,we women have always played every role given to us by the almighty with grace,compassion and sincerity. 

The people of this patriarchal society have forgotten that we women have the womb of the world.If we will not be there then no creation,no new life is possible at all on this mother earth.

Why we women fear???

 Whom do we fear???

Why we women restrict ourselves???

Why we women need a man in our life to fulfill our dreams???

Why we women need to follow the norms and boundaries set up for us by this patriarchal society???

Why can't we break all the shackles that stop us from moving ahead???

Why we women are considered as objects???

Are we only there on this mother earth for sex and pleasure and producing babies???
We have always walked on the embers and have always proved ourselves.We women don't need a man to fulfill our wishes,we need a man to be with us as our friend who always supports us,doesn't matter what the circumstances are. 

 That day will truly be celebrated as international women's day and that too HAPPY INTERNATIONAL WOMEN'S DAY when each and and every women of this world will feel safe and secure,will become fearless.


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 Unstoppable

Unshakeable

Unbreakable,we women.

Thursday, 8 February 2018

MY COOKING DIARY

MY COOKING DIARY

Hello readers,today in this blog I am going to share my roller coaster journey in the field of cooking.

Well,I guess most of us love to eat and are big foodies but when it comes to cook and then eat,it really get on our nerves.But the fact I realized in due course of time is that cooking is really fun and a big stress buster if we take a little bit of interest in it.Well,I can't assure but I can surely say that cooking is something everyone should know so that they will not remain empty stomach if there is no one in his/her house at that moment to cook for him/her.

So here is my story.......

I just used to get irritated with the name of cooking but here the irony is I am a big foodie.I love my mom's hand made food and whenever she used to go somewhere for a few days it really used to get on my nerves.My dad also cooks well,but of course not like my mom.So basically those days when she used to for a couple of days for some work I used to remain either empty stomach or else I used to skip my meals.But few months ago I realized that this is really not going to help,I need to learn a bit for myself.
I remember that I used to be someone for whom cooking used to be the last thing on earth.I just knew to make tea,coffee and noodles and yeah omelette which used to be tasteless.

 I remember that even the thought of cooking used to be irritating to me.
But now whenever I cook I really get happy,because it's something that really freshens my mind.

Few months ago also I used to burn the food whenever I used to cook.But I realized one fact that when you cook something and people like it,it feels great.
I am not a too good cook but yeah now I love cooking,it's something really refreshing.

Now I really appreciate all the people who cook for their family and themselves.I used to think cooking as the most irritating job in this world,but now I guess cooking really give happiness.

Cooking also make us independent,because if we will know cooking then we don't have to depend on someone for having cooked food.

 I remember saying that I will never ever cook in my life and will hire a cook to cook food for me.My mom never told me to learn cooking but yeah she do used to say that one should know cooking for their betterment,because if someone knows how to cook,then he/she don't have to starve because they have no one to serve them with the cooked food.But now whenever I remain free I do cook.Now I also do realize the importance of knowing cooking in someone's life.

Last but not the least cooking is one of the most unexpected thing happened in my life because this journey of mine, where in the beginning I used to get bored with just the idea of cooking,now I really enjoy cooking.It's like a brand new experience which provides me refreshment.

#cookingishappiness


Thursday, 11 January 2018

#EQUALITYFORWOMEN

#EQUALITYFORWOMEN

Hello readers!!! Happy New Year to you all.Hope you all are doing well.
This is the first blog written by me in this new year,so I thought to have a conversation with you all with the help of this blog.

Well,in a society where males have always dominated over women it's really not digestible for many men out there to get the fact in their heads that women also do have the same rights as them in this society.

I have seen this very keenly that almost every man whosoever he is,deep down there in his heart he still have the thing that this world is for them to rule,to be honest they just can't take it when they see women rising their voices for justice,for their rights.

But I guess men are not fully responsible that they have these kind of chauvinistic attitude in them,basically our so called cultured society is also responsible for this,because it's the rules that it had set for men and women which have always preferred men.We all have to go a long way to erase this attitude of men and our society towards women.

Someone have true said that if we want to change our society in a better way around then we all need to work together for it because it is us who represents our society. 

How we will be able to create a society which treats a women with respect and give them the rights and justice that they deserve when the men will not take any initiative from their side.

I am not saying that each and every man wants to dominate over women,I just want to say that they need to support women in their journey to achieve the respect and justice they deserve.Why do men fear when a woman becomes independent financially? I guess the answer is that men have understood that if women will become financially independent then men will not be able to dominate over women.

Now the thing is that there are many places where girls are not allowed to go to school,they are married at a very young age,are abused physically and mentally.These things don't let women to become financially independent in their life and ultimately they depend on their parents,spouses for food,house and clothes.

When we talk of establishing gender equality we need to start from our homes.We need to teach the young boys that women are not at all inferior than men,we all are equal.
But this is really difficult because still in many places the birth of a girl is not celebrated.The irony over here is the person who is giving birth is also a women,still women are not considered equal to men.I guess people have forgotten that they fold their hands infront of a goddess when they face any problem in their lives.

We talk of gender equality but still our roads are not safe.We are organizing campaigns,we are talking on social media and media channels regarding safety of women,we all are so concerned regarding women safety,we have laws to protect women but still we are not able to make our roads safe for the women.Basically people need to change their minds,they need to have the thought that women are equal to men,then only I guess we will to be able to establish a society where there is gender equality.
Basically in our society it is taught that men are superior to women which ultimately make men to think that they can do whatever they want with women.Honestly speaking we need to fight with this mentality.

If still some men think that they will again be able to dominate over women,then let me tell them that this is not going to happen,we will not let you do whatever you want just because you have got the tag of being superior to women from our so called cultured society.

Last but not the least I would like to share one real story with you all:

That day is still afresh in my mind.I was in standard 8 and our teacher asked us regarding the educational qualification of our mother.There were very few among whom I was also there whose mom was a graduate.That day was an eye opener.

Every time kids are asked about the profession of their father,in very few cases I have seen that a kid is asked regarding the profession of his/her mother.
I hope that our next generation will be asked both regarding the profession of their dad and mom.
May this new year brings the rays of hope and open the doors of success to women for whom education is still an illusion.
This year I wish that we all will be able to bring out some positive changes in our lives which will be an eye opener for many.
Let's make a society where the burden of earning the bread will not be only on a man an the tag of housewife will make every women feel proud.
I hope one day will come when the kids will be asked "what is the profession of your mother? "

 

 

 




Wednesday, 13 December 2017

PEOPLE ASKED LIKE WHOM YOU WANT TO BE WHEN YOU WILL GROW UP,I SAID ''JUST LIKE MY MOM''.

PEOPLE ASKED LIKE WHOM YOU WANT TO BE WHEN YOU WILL GROW UP,I SAID ''JUST LIKE MY MOM''.

Hello readers!!!!! Hope you all are well and good. 
Today I thought to put and share a viewpoint of mine in front of all of you,which eventually as you will read the blog you will come to know.
Well,I guess for all of us our mom is the most loved person in our life.We all generally attach the words love,care,affection with the most beautiful word of the word MOTHER.It is said that everywhere god cannot be there to protect us,that's why god created mothers.
But let me ask you one thing and yeah please be very honest while answering it and the question is ''WHO IS THAT PERSON LIKE WHOM YOU WANT TO BE WHEN YOU WILL GROW UP?''

Most of you will tell the name of some famous personalities from a particular fields whose life story have inspired you and there is nothing wrong in it.Even when I was a kid I also used to have names of famous personalities while answering the above question.But as I grew up I understood one fact that there is nothing more motivating and inspiring than a mother who inspires and motivates and supports you in each and every thing,yeah that's true that everything is not perfect.

Okay let me give a brief introduction about my mom.Well,My mom is a 49 year old,graduated(was average in studies) homemaker.
Now in this above given one line description about my mom,did you guys found anything motivating????

I guess that's a tough question for you all.Neither my mom was an university topper nor she is some working woman.Basically if you look like that there is no motivating factor.I guess in our country we never associate the words inspiring and motivating with the word homemaker,because they are not the bread earners for their home.

Now there is one thing that i would like to tell you all that I neither want to be a homemaker in the near future nor I am someone who sits at home and talk.I was always a very bright student and now I study engineering in one of the best colleges of my country.

You know we all fascinate the word MANAGER,isn't it.But you know we have the best manager in our home and that is our mom.Now let me ask you who is the best manager,the best manager is someone who knows each and every stuff of his/her workplace the best,Correct right.

So,tell me one thing who knows our home and it's stuff the best,our mom right.She knows  in detail how much grocery items we have,how much we require every month,how much we need or we will need on a daily basis,where each and every item is kept,when the groceries present in our home will get over,she knows what each and every person of the family likes and dislikes,she comes to know about our mood just by looking at our facial expressions,she knows what we do when we are happy or sad and what not.Basically she knows each and every nerve of us and our home the best.That's why she is the best manager of the world and the manager of our home.When she is alright everything in our home remains as it is otherwise we all know that we are just pathetic in remembering even our own things.

You know we quarrel with our mom,we get angry on each other,but there is that lovely connection that we have with our mom which make us forget everything and at the end of the day it is her lap where we find our solace.

I guess when we are at the lowest point of my life,it is her motivating words which makes me feel better not the motivating words of any motivating speaker.
When we need someone to say us that everything will be alright,we just want our moms to say that.Like every word of her is the ultimate truth of the word.

In our country homemakers never get the respect they deserve because they don't get a salary but I guess their job is something which neither have holidays nor salary and the irony is that they work 24*7 for us still people say she don't work.Just imagine if one day she will take a leave for her job will we be able to have a smooth life which we enjoy.I guess it's a big no.

I guess every mom was given some ultimate power that they have patience and softness in their behavior but at the same time when it is required she is a strict teacher also.
It is generally said that at one point of life mothers and daughters become the best friends.I guess women will be able to relate to me in this case.

Yeah that is true that a homemaker don't earn the money which is required for having the things that we need for a living but isn't it the matter of fact that homemakers runs the house and they are the CEO's of our homes who knows what,when and how to do a thing that it will be the best for the members of the family.

My mom always tell me one thing that I need to financially independent,I need to be something worth it in my life because we women are not only someone's daughter,someone's wife and someone's mom,we are also human beings who have ambitions.

I guess if we will talk to a woman who is a homemaker,we will come to know that the word homemaker don't have the motivation and inspiration in it though they are someone who keep us going in our life.

I don't know if ever in my life I will be able to develop that level of patience and love that my mom have,but one thing is for sure that she is someone who keeps me going in my life.Yeah there are many things on which my mom's and my thoughts conflicts but ultimately she is someone who understands me the best. 

Through this blog of mine I would like to say that it may be the thing that many of us don't have working moms but you know they also deserve the same respect that other glorious professions of this world gets.

Last but not the least a big HATS OFF to all the moms who sacrificed their whole life for her family without any hesitation.Never ever think that you are less in any thing than the bread earner of your house.If the bread earners purchase the bread for us then you are the one who cook and serve it to us does not matter what is the time and the weather there.


You are equally important or I should say more important.The house was just made up of bricks and cement,it was you who made it home and eventually it became the heaven for us.

 

#HATSOFFWOMEN


Wednesday, 6 December 2017

ARE WE REALLY GETTING MODERN?????? A REALITY CHECK!!!!!!

ARE WE REALLY GETTING MODERN??????
A REALITY CHECK!!!!!!

Well,today we people give importance to trend rather than comfort.Is that the sign of getting modern??

We people are somehow loosing our moral values.Is that the sign of getting modern??

Day by day we are loosing our character and are trying to become someone else.Is that the sign of getting modern??
We don't have the time to talk and message our loved ones,but we do have time for posting pictures with catchy captions on social media.Is that the sign of getting modern??

We are forgetting our own culture.Is that the sign of getting modern????

We are developing traits like double standards,dishonesty.Are these the signs of getting modern????

We run away from our responsibility.Is that the sign of getting modern??

We don't even think once before talking rubbish about a person or to badmouth someone.Is that the sign of getting modern??

We take the help of drugs,alcohol,cigarettes and what not.Are these the sign of getting modern??

We lack common sense and somehow discipline is getting evicted by our day to day life.Are these the signs of getting modern???

We judge people and disrespect them without even knowing the facts and figures.Is that a sign that we are getting modern???

 


Well,these are some of the questions which I want to discuss today with the help of this blog.
I don't know why but isn't it strange that as we are getting more and more educated we are somehow loosing our moral values.Basically we are becoming someone who just take the help of any path,does not matter how wrong it is to win over something.Is that we are learning?? Is that something that we always boasts that we are modern?? It's a big no.
Somehow today we focus more on the trends rather than comfort.Be it in the case of lifestyle,clothes or whatever.We are just trying to impress people with our looks,clothes,way of living but what about the soul that is within us.Is it really getting happy with this way of life.Don't it shout everyday to us that it wants to be free,it wants to be it's true self.
We always talk about our busy life and lack of time for our near and dear ones.But the fact is it is all about priority.The people whom we love,basically we always take out time for them,no matter how much busy we are.
We just don't want to take anyone's responsibility.I have seen people running away even from their duty they have towards their own family and home.Let me tell you something dear modern people that is the day you are having a day off from your busy life,you can take out some time and fulfill your responsibilities towards your family.If you will wash the utensils of our home,or if you will wash the clothes,or cook for one day,or will go to the market for the grocery items,you will not be called less modern from anyone.You may have maids and people who work for you but working for your own family and house is not a burden or something that will let you down because you earn a lot and can afford people who will work for you.There are a lot many things that we can learn from our home and the people who reside in it.We do have few responsibilities towards the people who always think the best for us.
We say something and do something.The word trust is getting faded day by day.Today we have become so self centered that we don't even know who is our neighbor,saying hi and hello is way too far.
We don't respect our own culture.There are people who don't even feel proud of their mother tongue and the place where they born and grew up.I have came across people who don't even know to read and write in their mother tongue,forget about reading and writing,there are people who don't even understand and don't even know to talk in their mother tongue. 
We back stab people,badmouth them but we don't want anyone to do that with us.How hypocritical that is.
We people go for alcohol,cigarette,drugs and what not and then we will call ourselves the so called modern educated people.
The crime rates are increasing day by day.Is that how a modern and well educated society runs? It's a big NO.We need to work together to make this society a better place to live in.
We don't think twice before judging others or before disrespecting anyone or before framing things about a person without even having the facts and figures with us regarding that person.Is that how educated and so called modern people behave!!!!
We lack simple civic sense and talk about big issues.We somehow are loosing our common sense day by day.We don't think twice before reacting or before saying a thing.Discipline is said to be the key for a good life,but somehow we are loosing this lifeline day by day and are heading towards a life where discipline is not there in the picture.
Last but not the least I would like to say that getting modern is nowhere related to our clothes or our way of life or how big our car is or how much alcohol do we consume or how much outgoing we are or how many night clubs we have visited,it's our thoughts which make us modern.We need to someone with vision because that will help us to be better and better each day.
Showoff is not the sign of modernity nor is hypocrisy.We need to be a person with vision,mission and thoughts who will always try to follow the path of enlightenment. 
We need to fight with the inner demons in our society.We need to be the change.
We need to build and character with strong moral values.We need to love and respect our culture and our people.
Basically this era is witnessing hypocrisy like never before.We all need to come forward to create society where we all will be real and reel.
That sums up the blog......Thank you for reading.....

#LET'SBEMODERNINTRUESENSE

#BLEEDRED #PROUDLY

#BLEEDRED #PROUDLY Hello everyone out there.Hope you all are doing well in your lives. Before reading this blog,let me clarify that ...